Sexualised hula hooping

Mar 14

7 min read

So yeah, sexualised hula hooping, what the heck is this about you may ask?. I'm off work with a chest infection and have spent way too much time scrolling social media. Had a cry feeling sorry for myself as I cough and can't sleep so just carried on scrolling. I've recently added TikTok to the list of media platforms that i'm watching but to be fair i'm generally only watching things that genuinely interest me .... until this morning it all took a turn for the worst.

I'm scrolling away this morning, in bed, still some warmth in my hot water bottle from last night, hot water bottles are very underrated. I'm scrolling away and a voluptuous female pops onto my screen, she's going to perform the shaving foam challenge, what is this I think so carry on watching. She turns her back on her friend holding the camera and takes her top off, her other friend who is standing in front of her, gets a eyeful, eyes pop from their sockets as the size of her friends breasts bouce in her direction. The shaving foam gets brought out. The friend who's been subjected to the eyeful starts to rub the cream in and then her friend spins around for us all to see her creamed up shaving foam breasts. She's then covered by her friend in foam, pants get taken off and cream rubbed into all the nooks and crannies by the friend, i'm not so sure my friends would be this willing. Looking to waste another 25 minutes I head to the comments for a read and as expected they do not disappoint. The men are loving it, woman not so much but the men are heavily defending this girl now and body shaming the women who have made comments. There's no link to her actual pages but don't worry because a lot of the men know her full name and are placing links on the thread. It would be rude not to see what other delights this lady has to offer, especially as i'm unwell and I have no intention of getting up. It's all very samey, big breasts in low cut tops, nipple and full frontal flashes, the odd appearance of what I am assuming is her boyfriend. She has a lot of followers but if any of those followers were caught watching you through your bedroom window you'd be straight on the phone to the Police. I'm bored very quickly and scroll on but, because i've looked at her page i'm now directed to other similar pages. I'd like to think i'm a worldly open mined woman but i'm clearly very sheltered.

A young lady in her 20s pops up on a reel hula hooping, ou loving this and she has an amazing talent. I like to watch anything aerobic, fitness, can I try this to lose a bit of middle aged weight, motivational content. I watch the same reel a few times and then click into her page and watch her entire content. At first her posts are informative, all about her talent, shows she's danced at, tips on how we too can hula hoop in style and ease just like her. I know this is a dream long gone for me but I can still watch and hope.

I was sad to see her posts change, she started to tell her followers that she was on Only Fans and that she was proud of it. I'm all for empowering woman and have no desire to put this lady down for her life choices.

I've experienced random sext messages myself, messages from random people wanting to see a bit more, making random requests, asking if I chat on other apps, asking questions like do you wear bathing suits, do you prefer tights or stockings? Totally innocent you may think but these are people fishing for their victims. They are predators.

My concern for these young creators is that they're being sexually exploited, they may enjoy the thrill of it all, the idea of people watching their body, if they are savvy enough they will get the predators to pay for it, at least then we can trace payments, they may think that there's nothing wrong if they are being paid good hard earned cash. My questions are, how many people are private messaging creators and requesting things, who are these people sending messages, what's their background, why are they making requests to see just a bit more, show a nipple, wear smaller panties, what happens if you hula hoop in that small skirt, show me it riding up. Who are these people making the requests? Is that not a worrying thought?

Changing the subject slightly but still on apps, my daughter told me that her friend had sold a few pictures of her feet on a foot fetish app. Where did this 14 year old get the idea from and did she admit she was 14 when setting up that account? So as a parent I went onto the app to look at it, from the outside it all looks normal, if you like feet then those are the sites for you, so I said okay i'm going to sign up and paint my toe nails and post some pictures of my feet up, I didn't expect to get any interest in my feet, in fact I can't stand feet but lets see what messages we get sent. The explicit requests started to come in. Reading other users client recommendations was the best part for me. Warm, loving, amazing tipper, I love you Mr X.

Our sons and daughters are watching all of this content, parental controls only work if everyone uses them, they will get access to this content on a friends phone, take your phone and watch it, sexualised hula hooping is being normalised.

I wanted to follow the hula hoopers amazing talent, I thought her shows looked great but I can't follow a page that advocates a young, well spoken lady selling her body to people who are taking advantage of her, paying her to perform private content. Again, who are these people making requests? I think we should be scared of them.

We are teaching people, still, that sexualised content is normal. It's not normal, I want to celebrate talent, skills, hard work getting to a level where you are hired to perform your talent. I don't want to be worried that one of my friends or colleagues see me following a semi naked person selling themselves instead of the actual hula hooping superstar that initially caught my eye.

On another more serious note, I watched the man who sexually assaulted me on a work's night out, consistently sit in our office and watch sexualised content, females in skimpy clothing, sing, dance or talk, he'd rate them, make comments like "i'd shag that". He'd watch clips for hours and then went he went out and got a few drinks down his neck his behaviour reared it's ugly face. Stuff his wife and child at home, stuff the people who he assaulted and it wasn't just me that night, it was a few of us. From conversations with him prior to the assault, I don't believe he had any respect for people other than himself. He has called me and the other victims a liar and shown no remorse. How many people has he let down at work, how many vulnerable people did he get access to. I spoke up straight away but no one listened, I clearly didn't tell the right people, however he is no longer at work.

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